First impressions are always unreliable.*
1. I met this interesting person. We were chatting and I think to myself. Whoa. This person is so different than what I thought she would be. This made me curious. I tried to remember my first impressions of her. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t pin point my first memory of her. The best I could come up with is one particular incident, during our interaction, where I could put her in a box. I mentally told myself, oh, how nice, we can put her in this box. So, there she was, along with all the other awesome people I knew, but had nothing in common with. An acquaintance. But then after our brief discussion today, I’m like, whoa, she doesn’t belong here. We do have something in common. So, that was cool. But it led me to think..
2 … are first impressions reliable? Here’s my take from whatever little experience I’ve had so far.
People can be broadly divided into four categories. The first are the Spontaneously Awesomeness Emitters (SAE’s). These are people who at t=0 make you sit up and take notice. They blow you away at your first interaction. Your experience with them leaves you with a warm glow inside you. You smile as you walk away, knowing that life will never be the same again. They manage to rekindle the fire burning inside you. Some of them are so potent, their effect can even be felt by just reading about them. Examples from my life, Lele sir, Gerry F., Muhammad Ali, Lance Armstrong, Malcolm X, Dean Karnazes etc.
The second are the Spontaneously Awesomeness Absorbers (SAA’s). These are the best examples of people who’s first impressions fade away. Its as if they apparated into your life. They become a part of you and you, of them. These are the people who bring out the best in you. They listen to your stories without judging you. They understand what you say. And what you don’t say. Physical proximity doesn’t stop them. They exert their power telepathically. They are the sole reason you exist. Without them in your life, you would never never realize how awesome you are.
The third are the Phosphorescence Awesomeness Emitters (PAE’s). On first impression, they appear ordinary. And you couldn’t be more wrong. They might look like normal people. Act like normal people. But wait till its dark. Then you see their true colors. From captivating turquoise, orange, green, they come in a multitude of colors. They will surprise you by their sheer will power in times of adversity. They are epitomes of human spirit and great enthusiasms. They get going when the going gets tough. And make it appear so effortless. Life is so much more beautiful and enchanting because they exist. Example are pee, rm etc.
The fourth are Weakly Interacting Massive Particles (WIMPS). You know them the minute you see them. Leave alone impressions, they cause depressions. They don’t even deserve the word awesome in their title. These are the annoying fuctards that seem to float all around. They don’t have the capacity to absorb or emit. And their interactions with everyone is weak and insignificant. In fact they are the anti-awesome. Also known as cants, they cant the SAEs, SAAs and PAEs and try their canting best to make this a canted world.
3. The best part is that there are outliers. People who fit into more than one bracket. And people who shift from one class to another. I wonder if its possible to hypothesize a rule – Saad’s Golden Rule – which would give you a way to calculate the probability of transition of a person from one group to another due to an external perturbation.
And this changes the old maxim too – Familiarity breeds contempt. It depends on the group. Familiarity can breed respect too.
* This is a quote by Franz Kafka